“Ships at a distance have every man’s wish on board. For some they come in with the tide. For others they sail forever on the horizon, never out of sight, never landing until the Watcher turns his eyes away in resignation, his dreams mocked to death by Time. That is the life of men. Now, women forget all those things they don’t want to remember, and remember everything they don’t want to forget. The dream is the truth. Then they act and do things accordingly.” (1)
This is one of my favorite openings of any book. I think even putting the gender differences aside, comparing the way people react and handle their dreams is amazing and really shows how as humans we are all not alike. Some people’s dream lives are just handed to them, if they are lucky. Others need to wait, but most people need to work hard to make it happen. Unfortunately, not everyone is willing. What is interesting about the gender role is that in the time period of the book, if a woman wanted something for herself, she needed to work for it, nothing would have come easily to her except an unwanted marriage and multiple children. Men on the other hand were much more in-control of their lives and could afford to be less careful in their decisions.